By Ndaba Nhuku| Having watched that video, l am still left asking why she had to be insulted on the day she should be mourned and buried to rest in peace. What crime did she commit, falling in love with someone who proposed to her?

I don’t think children have to fight on behalf of parents. Noone knows what drives parents apart. Some men do not want to tell the world that their wives are seeing other men; Will children know that if dad just walks out? As someone said elsewhere, “the battle is not for children”.

In the video, the gentleman calls Beauty a “hure/ prostitute.” But why? On what grounds? His father loved her and never called her hure? What is a “hure”? Zimbabweans like describing women, esp second wives or women who fall in love with married men this way. Are men not prostitutes if they do the same thing?

Did Beauty rape this PhD student’s father? Whilst discussing the issue with a friend, she asked, “What if his mother was abandone for the same kuhura which he is accusing the late Beauty for?” He can legitimately complain for not having been sent to school because his father was irresponsible but there is no evidence the step mother caused it. If she did, then his father was an irresponsible fool.

It is appalling and sad to listen to such a grown man talking nonsense in public kurwa shanje dza mai. And to think that there is a woman and children who call such “baba”! This guy should move on and have a life. His PhD is meaningless with this kind of behaviour and thinking. Or he wants to justify taking over Beauty’s possessions? This is a sense of entitlement and public humiliation of his family.

He is not God to have decided the right wife for his father and name calling of Beauty. What if Beauty had realised her own mistakes in life and had truly repented? That is if there is something she did wrong and she lived well with members of her community. Who is he to judge Beauty and denigrate the church?

Sone step children are vengeful and vindictive without knowing the relationship that existed being their parents and caused them to divorce. They have no idea about their own mother’s past but they are quick to label ana mainini mahure. In brief , this is not his battle to fight. Akashaya akamupa size panhamo ipapo. This is an insult to most step mothers doing a great job with kids who are not appreciative just because they want to fight their mothers corner!

The gentleman needs anger management and some counseling to help him move on with his life and have a great family. He is simply embarrassing his wife, children and his own mother. He could have made the public acknowledge him in a very polite and reconciliatory manner. He would ha e walked away the winner. But now be walks away as someone in need of psychiatry treatment to live a better and more fulfilling life.

Step mothers, most of you do a great job just life men who take on step kids as their own. Fathers, avoid abandoning your children once you divorce their mothers. Your children remain your responsibility for life. There is no justification at all for abandoning your kids. And fathers’ recklessness and irresponsibility should not be transferred to his new wife. Some men are simply irresponsible even with the new wife!! Grown up step children should research esp for a PhD student, causes of divorces and why some parents abandon their children, before making public stunts about their step mothers